From time to time, it’s good to consider the little things we’d like to improve about ourselves. After all, life is a constant lesson, and we’re never the “perfect” version of who we’d like to be, even if we can become a pretty great one. Relentless self-improvement at any cost can be quite intensive and sometimes rob you of the colour of life, but paying attention and making adjustments where necessary, especially around specific tasks and habits, can be very helpful.
This also goes for your thought habits, and considering how you perceive the world. For example, it’s a sign of a healthy might to adjust how they feel about certain political topics over time, even if the core of their beliefs remains consistent. This shows a willingness to learn, to consider nuance, or to avoid becoming too set in your ways.
You’ll find real benefits in applying that framework to how you consider yourself, and especially your insecurities. In this post, we’ll discuss not how to achieve it (as you know yourself better than we do,) but how to begin the journey in the best possible direction:
Consider How Your Insecurities Sprouted
Insecurities don’t form in a vacuum. For instance, it might be that your thumb is slightly misshapen, but if you never felt it was a problem and no one denigrated you for it in childhood, odds are, you don’t care. We all have a range of minor flaws like this, be that teeth that could be helped by composite bonding by Whites Dental, or perhaps lips that could be a little thinner than you might like.
It’s good, then to consider if your reasoning was even valid in the first place. You might have a birthmark that people notice, yes, but that could be cool, identifying you as unique and visually one-of-a-kind. Give yourself to a new perspective, and yes, be kind to that insecurity. You’ll slowly see how your concern about it dwindles.
Forgive Insecurities In Others
You’re nowhere near the only person with insecurities, which is a sad state of affairs, but unfortunately, true. That doesn’t mean other people feeling insecure should give you refuge, of course, but rather, it’s an opportunity to accept differences in others.
Ultimately, when you do this more and more, you can accept that in yourself, too. Having that ability to love the perceived flaws, or whatever goes against conventional standards (provided it’s not unhealthy or damaging, knowing there’s nothing wrong with change, too), can help you look to yourself with an empathetic eye. You may have really needed it.
Be Courageous & Express That Insecurity, Too
Exposure and expression are tools that therapists use to help their clients get over irrational fears. We might have our own worthwhile techniques we can use with this in mind, too. For instance, if you’re worried about being slightly overweight, that doesn’t mean you should avoid renting a well-fitted outfit at your friend’s wedding.
In fact, doing so shows that you’re proud of yourself and comfortable, and happy to avoid worrying about something so easy to change over time, knowing that it doesn’t denigrate your worth in any way.
With this advice, you’ll be sure to take a healthier look at your insecurities.